Sorry, but sending out something I started in a tweet earlier…
It amazes me how, in all circles (“fandoms” in this case), some people will still let the extreme actions of a few define their attitude towards the whole….
Why do some focus only on the negative?
There is so much more positive potential out there. Why do some search tirelessly to find singular negative examples to bring everyone down?
I refuse to believe that “most” of us are unable to comprehend how to properly behave in most (fandom) situations. I have seen too many wonderful people do too many wonderful things to believe otherwise.
I realize there are those (few) that behave ridiculously (and they are usually and unfortunately the loudest—having no self-filter); but I do NOT appreciate having my “fandom” berated, generalized and stereotyped BY ITS OWN MEMBERS for the actions of those few. It is not fair to the majority of us who only want to see a decent film/performance/play/concert etc…And nothing more.
I realize most mean well, but painting an entire “fandom” with the same colors as the “crazies” does a disservice to most of the fans involved, and negatively colors the perceptions of everyone outside said “fandom” towards all of us.
Most of us are good, decent, kind people. I see examples of this constantly. I see fans donating to charities, giving words of support to complete strangers, and just being generally positive examples to each other. I think, personally, that it would be a shame to cloud or discredit these amazing people I see just because a few can’t control themselves.
I realize this is probably the unpopular opinion; but I really, honestly don’t think the majority of the “fandom” is crazy, overly-entitled, or purposefully rude. The vast majority of us are silently, and happily living our OWN lives while enjoying the added bonus of being a fan. It would be a shame if the negative colors painted over any fandom based on those select few “crazies”, became the only colors the object of that fandom was able to see.
If I were ever asked to describe my “fandom” to it’s “object” (fandee? lol), I would tell this person about the wonderful, kind and helpful people that I have seen here — Those that provide examples of courage, fun, creativity, tenacity and uniqueness — all brought together and interacting due to a common interest. I would put an emphasis on all of the people that helped others selflessly, both monetarily and just through words of support. There are so many examples I have seen of this. I could go on for ages with examples of decent, selfless and kind actions I have seen from the “fandom”. To me these things would be much more important than emphasizing the negative minority. Though some might be reluctant to admit it, there are MANY wonderful people here—MANY more than the few rude jerks that seem to get all of the attention.
I apologize for the rant, and I know I’ll probably be ostracized by most for my heretical views (“Blasphemer”!! lol); but I can’t understand WHY we as a fandom group would turn on ourselves rather than find a way to support and emphasize ALL of the amazing, kind, and unique people within our ranks.
Be kind to each other folks. If you can’t be kind, at least try not to be mean. I’m pretty sure anyone out there in the position to have their own “fandom” would appreciate such a group of supporters….